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Random Feelings

A  Wisdom of the Ages Message that needs to be understood by everyone

I hope you had a great weekend.  Last night we took time to watch a movie on Direct TV, which we rarely do.  When it comes to movies, I prefer true stories over any other category.

Since I haven’t got to pick the movie since I can remember, Dawn & Torrey let me pick last night.  I chose McFarland which was moive that looked interesting but I really knew nothing about.

Just let me say this, every child needs to see this movie!


I am not a fan of “participation trophies” as you probably know.  Participation Trophies are a pet peeve and a topic I bring up from time to time.  I think they send the wrong message to kids.  I wouldn’t have even liked them when I was a kid!  I think it was an idea that was born in the mind of an adult that sees themselves as a victim.


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The truth is, sometimes we have to just work harder to get better.  Sometimes you have to get up early, or stay up late and do what most people are not willing to do if you want to move forward in life.  Why we want to water down that message to our kids or downline team members is something I don’t understand.

Success in any area of life takes work and dedication and this enjoyable movie drives home that point.  Watch it with your children or grandchildren it will be time well spent!

Have a great week.




The website below is worth checking out for more insights,
AFTER you see the movie!

Jim White




Since I live in Kentucky people are always asking me about the Kentucky Derby and horse racing. Today Amazon Kindle is offering a free download of a book called “The Elite Elleve”. I don’t know of a better way to brush up on your horse racing fans.


I originally wrote this a several days ago, and just realized I never posted it…. so here it is….just in case we get the snow they are forecasting this weekend. :)


I am constantly shocked at the attitude “If first I don’t succeed, fix the blame quick” and the fact that we live in a world were everything bad that happens must to be blamed on something or somebody.  We experience this daily from people in our industry.   When are we going to realize that until, we accept responsibility we cannot get better at anything.  Of course I am not saying that there was anything anyone could do to prevent the horrific ice and snow storm  that hit the South.   What I am trying to communicate is BLAMING others becomes a habit, and it is a bad habit.    Many people seem to think that in every negative situation they are required to blame someone else, and that nobody is allowed to make mistakes and learn from them and politicians in general are the worst at blaming other people.

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Dawn and I just got back from Kentucky last night.  After we got off I-75 and started home, it looked like a war zone.  There were abandoned cars, trucks, and school buses all along the sides of the road, evidence of  people who had just given up and weren’t able to make it to their destinations.

Last Friday when we arrived in Kentucky there was three inches of snow on the ground, and three more inches fell that night.  It was no big deal because PEOPLE WERE PREPARED.  School was called off and most people in Kentucky have been driving in snow all their life and government officials have a snow plan, salt trucks, and extra salt ready.

As you have probably witnessed on the news several southern states have been declared to be in a state of emergency.  You certainly cannot blame financially strapped governments in cities that rarely even see a snow flurry to have funds tied up in salt trucks sitting in warehouses that may not be used for years.  The bottom line, it is hard to prepare for something, you rarely experience.  Sometimes life throws us curve balls.

Most people who live in the South, have never learned how to drive on snow and ice because thankfully they have never had to learn.  Most government officials have too many more pressing issues than developing a snow plan, when it is highly likely it will never be used during their administration.

Everything doesn’t always have to be SOMEBODY’S fault.  Yes it is tragic that kids had to spend the night sleeping on school floors and some people were stranded in restaurants, and grocery stores, but sometimes bad things happen to good people.  We had friends and family members that spent hours in the mess.  We could have spent all of our time and energy being frustrated with the school systems and government officials, or …….. praying for their safety. which was our choice.   All we can do is try to help each other and move on, blaming someone or some entity does nothing to help the situation.

You live, LEARN, and move on so you are better prepared to handle the situation next time.

The real answers are always in the mirror, and sometimes it is just NOBODY’S FAULT.

If and when this happens again, maybe people will make certain they have enough food and water for a few days and then decide they are not going to send their kids to school, or go to their job that day.  I don’t know what the answer may or may not be for someone, but I do know, that sometimes it is better to not try to pass blame and instead, just pray, learn, and move on.  It is called life, and “This too shall pass”.

I hope you and yours are safe.





It’s noon and Dawn & I just got back from voting.



So tomorrow either Romney or Obama will be president
for the next 4 years.  After months of political ads, publicity,
and social media arguments, thankfully it all ends tonight.



Whoever wins, I hope the country and politicians can come together to
improve our dysfunctional US government and change things for the
better. The best quote I have heard during all the noise was during
the vice president debate when  Paul Ryan  said,   there are democrats
and republicans that both love America.   We have to stop worrying
about who is going to win the next election and focus on making the
decisions that will move the country forward, now!






All the campaigning definitely didn’t unite us. Both candidates
used a marketing strategy that focused on ‘us versus them’ and
‘it’s not your fault.’ It’s a very powerful marketing approach to
take because people want to be part of a group that throws rocks at
their enemies and blames others for their woes.


You see it all the time with online marketing campaigns.

- “The gurus are telling you lies, I’ll show you what really works”
– “The push button software they’re selling you is a scam, buy my
– “Your boss doesn’t appreciate you and you’re not getting what
you’re worth, I’ll show you how to work for yourself”


It is sad, but taking a side and rallying supporters against the
enemy and telling people, it is not their fault works like crazy.

People don’t want to take responsibility for their own mediocrity
and failure.


For example, if you’re inspiring people to lose weight, the enemy
might be the drug companies, the restaurants, or the gimmick diets.

If you’re teaching people how to invest their money, the enemy
might be corrupt Wall street insiders or Uncle Sam’s tax policies,


So no matter who wins, learn a lesson from what they’re doing and
use it for a good cause by marketing products and services
that really helps people


Figure about who the enemy is in your niche and use it to your
but tell the truth!  You must believe your product
or opportunity can help people, but the truth is a person’s
success ultimately depends on the person staring them back
in the mirror!


As a consumer, learn to take responsibility for where you are in
your life.  Success starts with taking responsibility.  As long as you
feel factors outside of yourself & control determine your destiny, you can
never fulfill your potential in any aspect of your life.



Thanks to my buddy Charllie Thackston for sharing
this with me!

I had not read these before. Outstanding!
At a time when our president and other politicians
tend to apologize for our country’s prior actions,
here’s a refresher on how some of our former
patriots handled negative comments about
the United States.

These are good

Secretary of State, Dean Rusk, was in France
in the early 60’s when DeGaulle decided to pull
out of NATO. DeGaulle said he wanted all US
Military out of France as soon as possible.

Rusk responded,
“Does that include those who are buried here?”

Did not respond.

“You Could have heard a pin drop”

When in England ,
At a fairly large conference, Colin Powell
was asked by the Archbishop of Canterbury
if our plans for Iraq were just an example
of ‘empire building’ by George Bush.

He answered by saying,
“Over the years, the United States has sent
many of Its fine young men and women into
great peril to fight for freedom Beyond our borders.
The only amount of land we have ever asked for
In return is enough to bury those that did not

“You Could have heard a pin drop”

There was a conference in France
Where a number of international engineers
Were taking part, including French and American.
During a break, One of the French engineers came
back into the room saying, “Have you Heard the
latest dumb stunt Bush has done? He has sent an
aircraft Carrier to Indonesia to help the tsunami
victims. What does he Intend to do, bomb them?”

A Boeing engineer
Stood up and replied quietly: “Our carriers
have three Hospitals on board that can treat
several hundred people; they are Nuclear powered
and can supply emergency electrical power to Shore
facilities; they have three cafeterias with the capacity
to Feed 3,000 people three meals a day, they can
produce several thousand Gallons of fresh water from sea
water each day, and they carry half a Dozen helicopters
for use in transporting victims and injured to and From
their flight deck. We have eleven such ships;

How many does France have?”

“You Could have heard a pin drop”

A U.S. Navy Admiral
Was attending a naval conference that
included Admirals from the U.S., English,
Canadian, Australian and French Navies

At a cocktail reception, he found himself
standing with a large Group of officers that
included personnel from most of those countries.
Everyone was chatting away in English as they
sipped their drinks but a French admiral suddenly
complained that, whereas Europeans learn many
Languages, Americans learn only English. He
then asked, “Why is it that We always have to
speak English in these conferences rather than
Speaking French?”

Without hesitating,
The American Admiral replied, “Maybe it’s
because the Brit’s, Canadians, Aussie’s and
Americans arranged it so you wouldn’t
Have to speak German.”

“You could have heard a pin drop”



Robert Whiting,
An elderly gentleman of 83, arrived in Paris by plane.
At French Customs, he took a few minutes to locate
his passport In his carry on.

“You have been to France before, monsieur?” the
customs officer asked sarcastically.

Mr. Whiting
Admitted that he had been to France

You should know enough to have your passport ready.”

The American said,
“The last time I was here, I didn’t have to show it.”

Americans always have to show their passports
on arrival in France !”

The American senior
Gave the Frenchman a long hard look. Then he
Quietly explained, ”Well, when I came ashore at
OmahaBeach on D-Day in 1944 to help liberate
this country, I couldn’t find a single Frenchmen
to show a passport to.”

You could have heard a pin drop.


FROM DALE: As I read this it may appear to be
a knock on the French. I know the French people
get a bad rap.

I have been to France and was treated very well.

Every time I travel outside the United States I
am reminded how thankful I am to be born in
this country.

It is not perfect, and there is not a day goes
by that I don’t feel like we spend far too much
time paying far too much attention to the

This country has always believed in Freedom,
and Free Enterprise that is one of the reasons
that we have been blessed.

We have clients and customers from all over
the world who are fortunate to live in
countries who allow free enterprise.